Tag: spiritual abuse

Chapter 4: Abusive Churches Misuse Spiritual Authority

Unhealthy, authoritarian leadership encourages people to place their pastors on pedestals. This is illustrated by the comments of one ex-member of a church located in a major mid-western city. "Little by little this man became the standard by which we all sought to live. The wisdom that poured forth from his lips left us in awe."

An ex-member of an east-coast fringe group commented that her tiny church was believed to be the full expression of God and had the mind of Christ. "When the leadership said something, it was taken very seriously as the absolute truth. I was part of what I totally believed was a sold out, godly, and committed church. However, after I left the church, my life was totally shattered."

This is Chapter 4 from the book, "Churches That Abuse," by Dr. Ronald M. Enroth.

Is Your Church Free from Cult-like Tendencies?

Many people who have been subjected to spiritual abuse wonder, in looking back, why they stayed in an abusive church for so long.

Often it turns out that the church in question grew more and more cult-like gradually.

After all, most abusive churches do not start out that way.

This checklist will help you to honestly evaluate your church, its leaders, and your church experience.

Epilogue: Can Churches Change?

The testimony of Recovering From Churches That Abuse is that battered believers can recover. But is rehabilitation possible for churches that abuse? Can a spiritually abusive system be changed? The answer is yes, even though in reality many churches do not experience significant change.

But some do answer these calls, and as evidence Dr. Ronald Enroth cites two groups described in Churches That Abuse.

Chapter 7: God Took Time to Visit His Lost Child

"When a member leaves an abusive church or is forced to leave, he walks out with virtually nothing. He leaves a part of himself behind; the years he has invested are gone. You need to deal with loss and bereavement, confusion and anger, and finally, acceptance of. that loss.

Many fail to accept it and move on. They need to understand that their significance is not in what they had, but it is in their relationship with Christ. They have lost a few years, but they have not lost their soul."

Chapter 5: “Next Christmas, We’ll Get a Tree”

Recovering From Churches That Abuse: "The most important thing in my recovery has been the need to get the proper balance between the heart and the head. In the Christian life, the mind is not something to be subjected to the heart.

It is false to say you cannot know or understand the Word of God unless you have the proper inner attitude, or unless you surrender and submit, and that only when you get to that place will God break through and show you the way."

Chapter 4: Grace to People Who Know They Need It

Many of the people Ron Enroth interviewed for his books, Churches That Abuse and Recovering From Churches That Abuse were undecided whether to leave an abusive situation or stay in the hope that their presence might make a difference.

But by remaining in an unhealthy environment for whatever reason people help perpetuate a system they have experienced as destrucive. Those who are contemplating leaving an abusive situation need to make a complete break and flee.