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Is Your Church Free from Cult-like Tendencies?

Many people who have been subjected to spiritual abuse wonder, in looking back, why they stayed in an abusive church for so long.

Often it turns out that the church in question grew more and more cult-like gradually.

After all, most abusive churches do not start out that way.

This checklist will help you to honestly evaluate your church, its leaders, and your church experience.

Epilogue: Can Churches Change?

The testimony of Recovering From Churches That Abuse is that battered believers can recover. But is rehabilitation possible for churches that abuse? Can a spiritually abusive system be changed? The answer is yes, even though in reality many churches do not experience significant change.

But some do answer these calls, and as evidence Dr. Ronald Enroth cites two groups described in Churches That Abuse.

Chapter 8: Grace Is the Best Thing in the World

The message of this book is that "mending" is possible! There is hope. You can trust again.

However, it is important to understand that although there are some common aspects to the process of recovery and healing, the route is different and can be more tortuous for some than for others according to their personalities and the special problems they encountered in the church.

Chapter 7: God Took Time to Visit His Lost Child

"When a member leaves an abusive church or is forced to leave, he walks out with virtually nothing. He leaves a part of himself behind; the years he has invested are gone. You need to deal with loss and bereavement, confusion and anger, and finally, acceptance of. that loss.

Many fail to accept it and move on. They need to understand that their significance is not in what they had, but it is in their relationship with Christ. …

Chapter 5: “Next Christmas, We’ll Get a Tree”

Recovering From Churches That Abuse: "The most important thing in my recovery has been the need to get the proper balance between the heart and the head. In the Christian life, the mind is not something to be subjected to the heart.

It is false to say you cannot know or understand the Word of God unless you have the proper inner attitude, or unless you surrender and submit, and that only when you get to that place …

Chapter 4: Grace to People Who Know They Need It

Many of the people Ron Enroth interviewed for his books, Churches That Abuse and Recovering From Churches That Abuse were undecided whether to leave an abusive situation or stay in the hope that their presence might make a difference.

But by remaining in an unhealthy environment for whatever reason people help perpetuate a system they have experienced as destrucive. Those who are contemplating leaving an abusive situation need to make a complete break and flee.

Updated: Abusive Churches / Spiritual Abuse

Our collection of research resources on abusive churches and spiritual abuse is one of the most-visited pages at Apologetics Index. We have now updated the links, cleaned up the page and increased the font-size.

Plus, in this entry we quote Ken Blue's observations about why otherwise sensible and intelligent people submit to spiritual abuse.

Chapter 2: Is There Light At the End of the Tunnel?

The problem of not being understood is common among victims of spiritual abuse. As a result, the victims feel guilty, misunderstood, and even rejected.

Christians who want to be helpful to those who have come out of abusive experiences must be sensitive, nonjudgmental, and accepting-even if they find it difficult to understand how something so bizarre could happen to another Christian.

Chapter 1: Searching for Freedom

What aspects of authoritarian churches are hurtful? What happens to members when they decide to leave or are dismissed? Are they likely to end up in another abusive situation, or are they able to find a "normal" church? What about those who find it impossible to return to church, any church? Is it possible to break the cycle of spiritual abuse? Can people find true freedom in Christ after years of bondage in performance-based lifestyles?

These are some …

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